Blog: Daddy and Me
Oct23

Blog: Daddy and Me

This piece first appeared in The Advocate. The first time I ever saw a sign that read “Mommy and Me” was outside a movie theater in Los Feliz, an extremely liberal enclave of extremely liberal Los Angeles. On Wednesday afternoons, this movie theater hosted “Mommy and Me” screenings. I imagined a theater filled with mothers nursing their newborns as they watched the latest art-house film, and as a father-to-be, I immediately felt...

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Blog: Oh Lorde: Bring back alternative female musicians
Oct14

Blog: Oh Lorde: Bring back alternative female musicians

Recently, Lorde became the first woman since 1996 to top Billboard’s Alternative Songs Chart. That’s right, the chart went an astonishing 17 years without a female atop it. Something is very, very wrong here. In the late 1980s and early 1990s, the top of the Alternative Songs Chart was home to a brilliant array of female musicians: Tori Amos, Suzanne Vega, Kate Bush, Sinead O’Connor, and Alanis Morissette among them. These women...

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Blog: Seriously, Madonna?
Sep25

Blog: Seriously, Madonna?

Madonna wants to be taken seriously, people. Like really, really, really seriously. In her new film, which I watched projected onto the wall of the Santa Monica Civic Center, she proclaims her desire to start “a revolution of love.” Over visually stunning imagery of Madonna being imprisoned, we hear her inimitable voice: “I keep telling everyone that I want to start a revolution, but no one is taking me seriously,” she says. “If I had...

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Blog: Goodbye Damon
Sep24

Blog: Goodbye Damon

I met Damon Intrabartolo on November 5, 2000. I was twenty-four years old. I had never had a boyfriend. My friend Mark told me he was going to take me to his friend Jon Hartmere’s play, “bare.” Jon was single and Mark thought we would hit it off. We arrived at the Hudson Theater in Los Angeles. I was so busy crying through the show that I didn’t notice that above the actors, a manic young man conducted the band. After the show, I met...

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News: Revolution is now available online
Sep18

News: Revolution is now available online

I am thrilled to announce that my short film “Revolution,” about an Iranian boy’s coming-of-age, is now available on YouTube and Vimeo thanks to the FramelineVoices project. Hope you enjoy it. It was very much a labor of love. The film stars Mojean Aria, Busy Philipps, Sheila Vosough, David Diaan, and Zach Cumer. The original score was composed by Vampire Weekend’s Rostam Batmanglij.

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Revisiting “Dancer From the Dance”
Aug21

Revisiting “Dancer From the Dance”

I first read Andrew Holleran’s mesmerizing novel Dancer From The Dance over a decade ago ago, long before I was completely comfortable with my sexuality, long before I realized I could be a gay dad and a sexual being. I tore through the story of men running wild in late 1970s New York with a deep sense of nostalgia for a time I never even knew. When I was in high school, a teacher showed us the documentary The Life and Times of Harvey...

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